In chapter 14 of Hannah’s Hope by Jennifer Saake the author discusses the things churches and church leaders can do to address infertility and infant loss in their congregation. This is a really great chapter to understand the touch points that may be helping couples and the areas that are a struggle. Some of the suggestions are:
Mention the issue of infertility in sermons so that people are aware of it.
Make sure hospital visitations are available to people after infant loss/stillbirth.
Make a support group available for infertility and/or infant loss.
She goes on to mention the organization of Sunday School classes and to make sure there is a place for folks that are no longer newly weds but are not yet in the new families group.
I have been trying to figure out how I can help in my church. When I think about starting an infertility support group I wonder if it should be just for women or for couples? I wonder if it should be held at the church or would more people come if it was held at a more anonymous location. Even after going through all these experiences I’m nervous about saying the wrong thing or being insensitive since everyone handles things so differently. I should just trust God and as the author says, “The key is an attitude of grace.” I think people pick up on that and can genuinely know when someone is trying to provide comfort. Many churches do such a wonderful job of this. Mine was one of them.