Are any of you list makers? Have you made your to do list for the next week/month of things you need to do related to having a baby? Does this help you or stress you out. Sometimes it can help to get everything down on paper and out of your head. It can also help you see how much you have done in pursuit of your baby even when it feels like you aren’t doing anything. The down side of course is you can look back and see all that you have done and recognize, despite all your efforts, your arms are still empty. Try not to lose heart. If a to do list helps you then keep up with it. If imagining your life with baby makes you feel better than make a to do list of what it would be like if you had your baby at home and say he/she is 9 months old.