This week we look at chapter 7, “Two Hearts Beating as One…Sometimes”, from “Hannah’s Hope” by Jennifer Saake. The chapter begins with this verse from 1 Samuel:
“Elkanah her husband would say to her, ‘Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?'”
1 Samuel 1:8
Husbands and wives deal with things in different ways, we know that, but when it comes to infertility, month after month, year after year the differences can wear on any couple. Jennifer states:
“He (her husband) could analyze and compartmentalized while my every thought was consumed with the desire for motherhood.”
For me it was all-consuming as well. I can so relate with that.
Later in the chapter she discusses two difficult topics, submission in marriage and your sex life. First of all she says how important it is to follow the biblical definition of submitting to your husband. He needs to be included in all family building decisions. He needs to be respected as the leader of the family.
Secondly when it comes to your sex life you need to discuss openly your concerns:
“God intended the marriage bed not only for procreation and for pleasure, but also for comfort.”
This chapter emphasizes the need to keep your marriage strong and united, to understand the differences between you and your spouse and to put things in perspective. She ends with:
“With or without children, strive to bless one another.”