Chapter 2 of “Hannah’s Hope” by Jennifer Saake is titled, “Envy, Jealousy, and Rivalry”. Obviously Hannah from the bible had to have all these feelings. In her time it was allowable for husbands to take another wife. Imagine her pain when she was unable to conceive and so her husband married another woman who gave him multiple children.
In our time we see that statistics reveal that the majority of pregnancies are unplanned. We hear stories of mothers with multiple children from multiple fathers who are unable or unwilling to care for them. We may know a teen mom that is choosing to parent. These all feed our sense of injustice.
Jennifer explains that jealousy occurs even when someone we love is able to get pregnant and have a baby. Her brother and sister-in-law got pregnant during the time they had been trying for a while. These feelings of jealousy are contradictory to our good nature and make us feel guilty although they are understandable.
We have to remember that these are just feelings and with God’s help we can acknowledge our feelings but not let them rule us. We need to remember God has his hand in all circumstances. We need to remember a positive pregnancy test may bring extreme joy or it may bring terror. God may use the gift of a baby differently depending on the person. He also has a plan for the baby’s life. I love how Ms. Saake puts it:
God perfectly orchestrates the necessary timing for each new life to fulfill the plans He ordains.
Not only is it comforting to know God has a plan for our baby-to-be but He felt this way about us! He has ordained a perfect plan for us.
If you are jealous of your sister, neighbor or other if you cringe when you see a teen mom it is understandable. But you don’t know what God is doing in their lives and you don’t know what God has planned for your life.
I never would have guessed that while we sat in the office of the adoption agency hoping to adopt a newborn from our hometown, our sons had just been born half-way-around the world. It would be a year-and-a-half before we were connected. During that time God had a plan. God has a plan for you too.