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“When Will the Journey End?”  asks chapter 15 of “When the Cradle is Empty” by John and Sylvia Van Regenmorter.  The authors describe the milestones of grief that people go through with any loss.  Infertility is a real loss no matter how it ends.

Please remember that the stages of grief as described by Westberg end with recovery, not despair.  The road before you is not endless!  I can’t promise that your journey will end quickly, or even in a manner you presently desire, but it will end.

Right now you may be full of anxiety, doubt and discouragement.  But when God is in the mix of our lives, amazing and unanticipated recovery can happen.”

They continued on to cite numerous people who explain that although they are “on the other side” of their infertility, the experience, the loss the grief will always be a part of their lives.  But peace, acceptance and even joy takes the place of the daily sadness.  I did not believe this in the midst of my journey but it has come true.  Joy, real joy, is possible no matter how your journey ends.